Are you getting smashed by goal setting emails at the moment?
The more emails I receive the bigger the failure I feel.
I even took time out to spend on identifying the things I want to do, be and have in 2018, and I still feel inadequate.
So, I decided enough is enough. It’s time for goal setting on my terms.
And that’s what it should be. YOUR TERMS!
All those free downloads and the checklists are someone else’s process for goal setting and sure you might find one that works for you among the multitude of web pages but ultimately you have to trust yourself to know what is right for you.
Last week I spent some time reflecting on a year that was, in simple terms, uncomfortable. Further pondering has led me to accept that there were positive times and that if I didn’t learn the lessons thrust upon me, I can at least acknowledge the awareness of them. I read an article that reminded me not to dwell on the mistakes I had made during the course of the year as I had probably already beat myself up enough at the time and that there was no point in doing so again. That was freeing!! So, I give you permission to dump it all too – RIGHT NOW!
Setting goals is a journey that we take control of, rather than letting life and circumstances control us.
I acknowledge that the scientific facts and the blind tests and whatever other mind-altering experiments all prove that goal setting works and the clearer you are in determining your goals the more likely the chance that they will come to fruition. But like most things in life it doesn’t have to be complicated. Unfortunately we have been led to believe that the more complex and convoluted it is the better the outcome. And while SIMPLIFY is not my word for 2018, simplifying should be a process we all undertake, daily. (By the way my word for 2018 is CONNECT)
The entire process can be as simple as 1 – 2 – 3.
1 – Start with an idea – something better for ourselves.
2 – Choose to have it make an impact on our lives.
3 – Create the plan.
Ideas will never come to pass without us taking some action towards their implementation.
We write it, we read it, we take steps to make it happen. The more we write it and read it and take steps the more likely it will happen. Logical and simple!
And then comes the kicker!!
It’s here where we start to get ahead of ourselves – if it’s that simple why not create 10, 15 or more goals.
All of a sudden our journey is hijacked, we get overwhelmed and nothing is achieved. I know I’ve been here before, I have the templates and guidelines to prove it.
So this year, along with my word of the year, I created simple statements for the major areas of my life where I am looking to improve. And upon review, these statements already included specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely actions – who would have thought?!
The final step for me now is to set reminders in my calendar (and phone) to check in and review both my plans and myself to keep on the right track.
Enjoy the journey, and if goal setting just becomes all too hard – keep in mind that you are enough, just as you are, right now.
Let me know your successful goal setting processes.